Will I have a baby soon?

People have different strengths and weaknesses.  I'm not good at looking at future health issues,   they just don't sing out to me.   Except for fertility.  Because of my own,  long ago but long lasting,  fertility issues,  I'm super sensitive to it. I have received lots of feedback about being accurate.  (I tried for 7 years in the 1990's to have a baby,  and nothing happened.  Only when I gave up on treatment and on the possibility of motherhood, on the 8th year,  did I conceive,  naturally.)

So if you are trying to conceive,  or wondering about it,  drop me a line,  and we'll see if we can conjure up the beautiful Inner Child World card,  or the positive Empress card (who is often shown pregnant!)

And baby makes three

So many women come to me when they are trying to become pregnant (we all agree, that 'fall' is such a dreadful term when you are doing everything you can and it's just not happening.) 

But many women also come to me once the baby is born,  and nothing is like they expected/ hoped for. 

When we move from a dyad - two people forming a pair bonding - to a triad - three humans forming a bonding,  all sorts of weird and wonderful things can happen. 

Dyads are easier,  because there is only you and one other to take into account.  Threesomes (those kinds as well) are much harder.  If we square 2,  we get 4.  But if we square 3 we get 9.  Many more possibilities.

And if the new human is tiny and demanding and frankly unreasonable,  it can upset the original dyad catastrophically. 

So when you have a baby,  lots of things change.  Not only the obvious,  but also the subtle interactions of the Dyad now rarely exist.  The Triad now dominates even if only 2 of them are in the room.  So the parent with the baby (most often the mother) can get resentful of the missing parent.  And even if both parents are together and the infant is with a trusted sitter,  the existence of the third,  still impacts the pair,  even when not present. 

Sometimes just pointing this out can help.  They can see the triangulations going on,  can catch the dynamics before they start splintering things.  

As always,  a little self awareness can go a long way...   

Motherhood

 

A new father came for a tarot reading with me and one of his questions was about his wife, and he drew sun / 8 of swords / strength – and I think that is the most perfect description of early motherhood that I’ve heard in a long time – sun,  happy,  warm,  bright,  8 of swords,  trapped,  scared,  unable to see clearly  but then she gets to that very feminine version of strength,  where her clarity and calmness makes the lion fall in line…   

Now doesn’t that sound like the mother of a 3 month old to you?

Fertile Feedback

I’m always happy to get feedback on my readings.  Nearly a year ago I did a reading for a woman who was very anxious about whether she would have a baby,  full of tears and fears.  But the cards saw nothing to worry about, she drew both the Empress and the Star. Acccording to the cards she was fertile and would get what she wished for soon… and recently she emailed me and said she had just had a baby.  Happy news indeed!

Andy Cherewick, Small Messages

Having struggled with fertility issues myself, I find that I’m very in tune with that issue and I’m comfortable discussing and sorting out what the cards are trying to say.