Tuesday, October 28, 2014

The New York cards

There are some cards I think of as more typically New York than other places, that I see more here than I have previously – of course it might be a more second millennium kind of card too, as I have been reading here for the past 10 years.  My next few posts will be about these cards.

I’ll start with the Seven of Cups.

7 cups, Rider Waite deck
The seven of cups is about having choice,  but instead of feeling empowered,  “I have all these options!” the drawer feels overwhelmed,  “I have all these options but can only chose one…”  and there are consequences,  seen and otherwise, of each choice.  So now I stand paralyzed (or crouch if you are looking at the beautiful card below!)  not knowing which cup to select,  which card to let go of. 

I find that New York in particular has this obsession with keeping options open.  But what I tell people is that after a while, making no decision becomes its own decision, and some of these cups will naturally disappear if they are not chosen. Some may go for a short time, some may go forever, that is life.  But choosing a cup, finding a direction, even if it not the ultimate direction but merely a side path, gives  life energy. 
7 of cups,  Klimpt deck
People often say to me that they don’t want to have regrets.  I think standing paralyzed and not choosing creates a regret of its own. So my other answer is that regrets are not cancer (unless we make them so.)  Regrets are risks that don’t pay off in the short term in the way that we had hoped.  And even if they make it to the long term (I will always regret not buying New York real estate when we arrived in 2002!) it doesn't mean that we should not act.  It just means that we lived and learnt.

7 of cups,  urban tarot deck
So these Seven of cups remind us to make a choice and live with it, and if it doesn't pan out the way we had hoped, then we will course correct and make another one… 

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

How Often Can I come and see you?

After a successful tarot reading, people often ask when they can come and see me again.  I usually say at least 3 -4 months,  otherwise the cards won’t have changed enough.

One of my regulars wanted to see me after about 2 months,  having a work situation she wanted to talk about.    Her last reading was July 31st,  she called me in October…  I make a post card summary of the cards for you to take home,  and take take a photograph of it for my notes, and her last reading was still on my phone.

So I had to laugh when I saw the cards.  Statistically, someone once explained to me how difficult and rare it was to get the same card in exactly the same spot, but the math got so complex I just accepted that it was very rare.  She had two identical duplicates (same card, same spot) and one similar (same card, different spot.) The very first card of her reading was exactly the same as the very first card of her last reading - Chariot Reversed.  (she does not feel like she is in the driver's seat)   And her near future card – still the Emperor. And she had one more duplicate, Lovers, but it was not in exactly the same position. 

I told her I was going to write about this.  She still in the same space and still drawing the same cards (but once she gets past the Emperor, things are getting better for her!) 

Skeptics sometimes say to me, but anyone could draw those cards, and I say no, only you are going to draw those particular cards…

So if you see me too soon, the cards won’t have shifted enough.  I often see my regulars once or twice a year, more if something serious or stressful is going on. But you can’t go to a tarot reading once a month – the cards will just repeat themselves – which at least will serve to increase your faith in them! 

The reason I have such faith in the cards is that I see this kind of magic all the time… 

These gorgeous tarot cards are from the Steampunk deck

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

My reality

Pajama Diaries 

This made me laugh,  because it's true!  One of the reasons I love tarot readings is that I am clear and focused then,  and don't get distracted.  But when I am not reading...  those magic portals have their effect! 

Monday, October 6, 2014

Phone Readings

I frequently get people calling from all over the place, asking me if I can phone readings.  I’m really sorry, and I have tried in the past, but I don’t get anything from the cards if you haven’t shuffled them. 

I read the cards, and I need you to move them around, so that your energy infuses them. Otherwise, it’s all just mud for me.  I really trust the cards and if they and I ever disagree, I give their voice far more weight – I’m just a person, but the cards – I’ve seen them be accurate far too many times to doubt them!

So if you would like a reading with me, we have to meet face to face, so you can shuffle the cards.

One thing I have tried successfully for clients who have moved away is skype readings.  If they want to continue reading with me, I get them to buy their own deck, and then we do a skype reading, with me looking at the cards that they have dealt.  That can work very well too. 

Friday, October 3, 2014

Linked In data

A couple of weeks ago I wrote about how OK Cupid had used its enormous cache of information to analyze dating trends.   This week, LinkedIn put out its own data analysis of resumes and college degrees to see which colleges got people into which jobs – something that has solid real world data and so is enormously interesting.  I often do readings for people looking to change jobs or careers.  Having worked at a dating agency and in recruitment, I know well the tension of these ‘interview’ situations, and find having more facts at your fingertips always helps. 

Monday, September 29, 2014

Got a mention in the New York Post

There was an article on tarot in the New York Post this week - and I got a mention!  Always fun when that happens. 

In case the link doesn't work - here's the article below -

After about a month of dating a new guy, Amy, 32, is ready to take the next step in the budding relationship, but that doesn’t mean mentioning his name to her mom or friending him on Facebook.

Instead the Boerum Hill resident makes an appointment with a tarot reader.
“If I like a guy, it’s helpful to get an outside opinion as to whether this guy could be a long-term thing or just a fling,” says Amy, a lawyer who asked not to use her last name due to professional reasons. “It’s the same as getting feedback from friends as to whether a guy is good for you.”

More and more New Yorkers say they’re seeking out love advice from tarot card readers, and Newsweek research from 2013 found that 18-to-30-year-olds are more likely to turn to tarot and astrological readings than religion or praying to cope with existential angst.

But tarot readers may be adding to that angst by doling out relationship advice — especially in New York City, where love is notoriously hard to find. Jersey City resident Walt Hickey recently went to Union Square tarot reader Angela Lucy. She told him he was likely to be unlucky in love until December.

It sounded grim to Hickey, a writer for the statistical analysis blog fivethirtyeight.com. Then he looked at some stats on the subject and found that there may not be much more in the reading beyond a little common-sense intuition.  “New York City is the third worst city for relationship formation, according to Facebook data,” Hickey says. “It’s not a stretch for a tarot reader to assume a single New Yorker is having trouble.”

Liat Silberman, a Tribeca-based tarot reader, doesn’t think of tarot as a tool for predicting the future. Rather, she says a reading can help clients identify blind spots and bad habits in their lives. “So often, clients come in asking me when they’ll meet their husband or wife. And I can’t tell them that,” says Silberman, adding that this lack of certainty will often initially annoy her clients — but that if they stick with her, they and their love lives will benefit. “In Australia, where I learned how to read tarot card, readers are often Jungian therapists, drawn to the cards because of the archetypes they contain.”

Silberman, herself a former psychotherapist who decided to focus on the cards full time, has found there’s a lot of overlap between therapy and tarot.
“The cards can uncover patterns and show you where you might be stuck,” she explains. “You might want to meet a mate, but are stuck in a relationship conflict with your parents. Until you resolve that, love won’t happen.”

Tarot reader Lucy says that, often, the most obvious tough-love advice can be helpful when it comes from her — because clients will actually follow through in a way they wouldn’t if they heard it from their friends. “I had one client who came in, desperate to find a partner. She had a ring on her left hand!” Lucy explains. “I put the cards down and told her, ‘Everyone thinks you’re married!’ Until I said that, she had no idea that was the message she was sending.”
Although the advice may be taken with a grain of salt, busy New York City millennials have embraced the “can’t hurt, might help” mentality a tarot reader might bring.  

“The instant gratification of actually getting a response to a question like ‘Why hasn’t he texted?’ outweighs the fact that the answer is probably BS,” says Deena, 30, an editor and East Village resident who declined to give her last name for professional reasons. “Because, hey, what if it’s not BS?”
The last tarot reader she spoke with correctly guessed the first letter of her current boyfriend’s name. “I think that’s pretty good,” she enthuses.

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Tarot together?

Sometimes people ask if they can bring someone to sit in on the reading with them.  Or they want two readings,  back to back,  and to listen on to each other’s readings.  

I always stress that if they are really close friends,  having someone sit on the reading with them can make it better. They can talk about it afterwards together,  and mull over it.  However if they are not close friends,  it’s much worse.  Because the tarot can reveal secrets, and if you are not prepared for the other person to know these things about you,  then don’t bring them along. And if you are having doubts about your relationship,  then please don’t bring your boyfriend  – that can really get quite awkward! So office buddies, no.  But best friends or sisters (I often have sisters come to have and listen on each other’s readings readings), yes!