Monday, April 13, 2015

Fears for the Future


When I watched the excellent movie Her, it was all of my fears for the future, writ large.  It’s essentially a film about people becoming more attracted to their intuitive phone systems than to other, unreliable people. And why wouldn’t you be attached to something that is always available to you,  always interested,  and has no needs of its own, is only a programed need to serve you. 


And then I saw this really interesting ted talk the other day - where Sherry Turkle talks about her fears of how people are losing the art of conversation, of talking with uncomfortable pauses and a lack of control over what happens next, that text and email preempts.


One thing I love about readings is the focus of them. There are no phones, no distractions.  It’s a conversation that is alive and present.   This is of value to me, and to those who come to me, who often comment on how they feel heard, and seen, in a way that doesn’t happen often to them.

Sunday, April 12, 2015

Want to know what your future holds..


Tarot explores the present to see how it colors the future.  It can’t answer questions about the future without addressing the here and now.  Especially when dealing with complex issues – love, relationships, work quests - what we are doing now really creates the future.


I did a reading for a woman recently who kept saying,  yes, yes,  I know all this,  but when will my love life change,  when will the perfect man come?  She didn’t want to explore her patterns; she just wanted a different outcome.

But without seeing the patterns, she didn’t know how to break them…  The future is cooking now, if you want to change the future, we need to see what ingredients we are putting in, and modify them; otherwise, the same meal will appear.



Beautiful artworks by Giedra Purlyte-Mazrimiene

Tuesday, March 31, 2015

Keep a Copy of your Significant Cards close by.



The Empress is one of my favorite cards,  glowing with possibilities,  fertile,  able to give birth to new ventures,  new life plans,  new babies.  So when people draw it, I often tell them to find the version of the card that they most like,  and use it as their phone wall paper,  or on their computer,  somewhere where they will see it often and be reminded of her energy. 


Of course,  I tell people to do this with other significant cards too,  I’m just using the Empress as an example here. When I was first learning the cards, there were far fewer options, but today there are so many amazing versions of each card, and some will definitely speak to you more than others.


So if you get a particularly significant card, look it up on Google Images or Pintrest.  Read my blog piece,  or anyone else’s blog piece about it,  and keep it close to you.  Let the energy feed you and you’ll get there quicker…

Monday, March 23, 2015

Sixth Anniversary!


I've been reading Tarot for more years than I have fingers and toes,  but I only thought about creating this blog in 2009.  I've been writing it for 6 years now!  I started by going through the cards one by one,  describing them individually.  When you first start with Tarot,  you learn the 78 images and how to interpret them. But the cards really come alive when you read how they interact together, like musical notes that become so much more interesting when you play another note along side it.


This February the anniversary of my blog snuck by me in a fog of snow (it was such a cold February,  wasn't it!)  And I just looked and realized I hadn't written my customary anniversary blog. So here it is,  a few weeks later but better late then never at all.   That's one thing life has taught me - not to let the perfect get in the way of the good (and I was such a perfectionist,  I had to learn that lesson several times!)

By Giedra Purlytė-Mažrimienė

I started this blog to show people that I am knowledgeable about Tarot and I keep writing it because my clients tell me that they often turn to it between readings,  to catch up with me and to read what is catching my interest.  I get lots of lovely feedback,  so I'm happy to continue with it. This blog is written with a lot of love and care.  It should answer most of your tarot questions.  If you want to know anything just type in the word in the upper left hand corner (near the B) and there is sure to be a blog piece about it (eg Wands will bring up the entire Wands suite.  If you want to know about a specific card,  type in that card and you'll get information about it.) If you want to know more,  call me and we'll set up a reading!

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Puppy Love


I had a reading the other day where a woman told me of a new man she was dating.  His biggest sadness after his last break up was losing custody of the dog, and my client,  who volunteered at a shelter,  offered to find him one. She came across the perfect pup and he met her and brought the dog home.  They have been dating for about 6 months now,  he’s had the dog for around 4 months,  and she said that she knows this is irrational,  but one of the things that just goes right to her heart is how easily and often he says “I love you” to the puppy,  when he has never said it to her.  And I smiled at her and said “but he owns the dog.  He knows that puppy isn’t going anywhere!”


Humans are so much more complicated, harder to approach, easier to betray, can prioritize work or family or other foolish things above you.  Dogs are simple things to love.  Though feeling love and saying it, even if it is to a puppy, is at least good practice at expressing emotions.  The cards liked him, and she likes him very much, and we are hopeful that he will speak to her soon of love…

Friday, March 6, 2015

The truth should be enough


So I came across this lovely article on face book, and was thinking of making it a topic for my blog .


May 28, 2006

To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me.

It is the most-requested column I've ever written. My odometer rolls over to 50 this week, so here's an update:

1. Life isn't fair, but it's still good.

2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.

3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.

4. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.

5. Pay off your credit cards every month.

6. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.

7. Cry with someone. It's more healing than crying alone.

8. It's OK to get angry with God. He can take it.

9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.

10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.

11. Make peace with your past so it won't screw up the present.

12. It's OK to let your children see you cry.

13. Don't compare your life to others'. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn't be in it.

15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don't worry; God never blinks.

16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.

17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.

18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.

19. It's never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.

20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don't take no for an answer.

21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don't save it for a special occasion. Today is special.

22. Overprepare, then go with the flow.

23. Be eccentric now. Don't wait for old age to wear purple.

24. The most important sex organ is the brain.

25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.

26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: "In five years, will this matter?"

27. Always choose life.

28. Forgive everyone everything.

29. What other people think of you is none of your business.

30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.

31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.

32. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

33. Believe in miracles.

34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn't do.

35. Whatever doesn't kill you really does make you stronger.

36. Growing old beats the alternative - dying young.

37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.

38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.

39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.

40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else's, we'd grab ours back.

41. Don't audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.

42. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.

43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.

44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.

45. The best is yet to come.

46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.

47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.

48. If you don't ask, you don't get.

49. Yield.

50. Life isn't tied with a bow, but it's still a gift..

Now isn’t that terrific?  And isn’t it enough?  But in the strangeness of the internet,  the original article I saw thought that having a 50 year old woman write this was not sufficient,  so they made her 90.
 
And then they put a photo of a really fabulous looking 90 year old next to it. But my fashion savvy friends recognized the photo and said that’s not Regina, it’s Iris Apfel,  New York Fashionista.
And I thought about the vagaries of the internet,  how it finds something perfectly good and then to dress it up more, covers it in tinsel and makes it false.   
We have to live in a world where a good truth is good enough,  otherwise we turn into Brian Williams (whom I admired) who took perfectly good truths and then dressed them up to such an extent that they became false.    We have to avoid that impulse.

Seeing the Truth

I read this fascinating article the other day about a writer’s experience with a con man/murderer and how he heard the wrong notes of the story but ignored them, and then felt so betrayed at the end, when the truth came to light. 


I remember doing a reading some time ago with a young woman, in her early twenties, talking about life and job choices,  the usual questions. But when she asked about her future she drew these cards –


I suppose I could have lied and made up some story but the cards made no sense to me in the context we had been talking about,  and I said as much to her.  I described them in detail – addictive/negative patterns, a dominating, controlling man/situation, a strong sense of being trapped, but if she was willing to see clearly she could find a way out. 


And then she told me that she had lied to me, she was not a student,  but rather a call girl,  and those cards described how she was feeling perfectly.  I had not suspected her of lying, I had no cause to, but the cards… they see the truth even when I don’t. 

After that truth was revealed, the reading became far more productive.  
 
I was reminded of this when I saw this other piece in the New York times -  Chicago University is asking us if we can spot the liar through body language…   Can you?