Often people come to me, knowing that the old relationship is over, but still entangled with that person, and ask me if they should date other people. The cards often tell them that they need a break, to give them time to adjust to their new situation - they draw the 4 swords or the hermit.
But doing nothing is hard: you feel empty, you want some
action to fill the void. So I tell them
to go and flirt with New York. This is an amazing city, but it’s also a tough
one. If we don’t take advantage of all
the marvelous things that go on here, we are paying the price of living here –
huge cost of living, crowds, lack of personal and psychic space – without
taking the benefits.
So I tell them go out with humans (as opposed to dating) old
friends, new friends, potential friends, and flirt with New York. Find music,
lectures, theatre, and museums. It
doesn’t have to be intellectual, go to new restaurants, comedy shows, and find
the best Bloody Mary in the city or the perfect brunch place. Go play tennis, cycle, improve your one mile time. Flirt with the city and that will help let
the old feelings go and give space for new relationships to start.
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