There are some people you follow, and after a while, they've been in your life so long, they feel like old acquaintances - someone you went to college with, someone who was in a group you were in once... You don't even have to like them, you just sort of keep tabs on them. I don't love Jennifer Lopez. And I really don't love Ben Affleck. But I sort of liked them getting back together again, after all these years. Little facts tweaked me, like that they didn't sign a prenup. I really hoped they would make it this time.
But as they song says, everywhere you go, you take the weather with you (Crowded House) And Ben took the weather with him. Him looking despairing at yet another awards ceremony, so awkward, so not wanting to be there. Her looking impeccable, as always. And I sighed. I knew that they were on different trajectories and unless he really pulled hard, they wouldn't make it. It's okay for one half of the couple to be more social and appearance driven, especially if it's the woman and if she can leave her other half at home. But if all she does is get 20 questions about where is he, and 20 articles about the state of her marriage every time she goes out without him, well then she starts dragging him along. And boy did he look dragged.
So I wasn't surprised at the news that she filed for divorced, or that she was the proactive one to do the filing. But I was sad for both of them. They were honestly fighting for the dream and I was honestly hoping it would work, and I'm on no one's team here (ok, I'm a little more on Jennifer's team, but not 100% more like 55/45) and I wish them both well in the future...
Read this article in the New York times, comparing J.Lo to Elizabeth Taylor - and wishing for her to be remembered not for her relationships, but how she wanted to change the world, and fought so hard for a cause that she made a real difference. Now that's a blessing to take with you.
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