To let me feel empathy, I had to remove all costings and bag labels and just think about asking for something you really want and feel like you deserve and then getting something less than, and being forced to have performitive feelings for it.
So we began talking about communication (the cards were not good, all upside down) and why did she need him to buy the wrong bag, why couldn't she go with him, how did she express all this and also, because we are in the real world, could he afford it? Maybe $4,000 was as far as he could go...
And it gave me a minute of gratitude. That I am not in her headspace, that this is something I would never want, but also, compassion, because she was so stressed and disturbed by it, so upset with no where really to go. It's the feeling of not being heard and not being valued. But also, not being able to compete, and all the other women knowing exactly what she was given and what it meant to them.
So I encouraged her to go back to her husband to have a real conversation, but also, think about how this plays out with her social circle, and why her female friendships feels so competitive and judgemental. She was surprised at that, she thought all female friendships were like that. So that was a start. Hopefully she will go into the High Priestess (her outcome card) and start to think about her life more intuitively, rather than skating on surface impressions.
For my own amusement I selected bags from the internet -
The first one was a Louis Vitton retailing for approx $4,000
The second one was a Bulgari bag, retailing for approx $8,000
The third one was a valextra bag, retailing for approx $7,100
and the last one was a Hermes bag, retailing for approx $35,000!!
(click away, I will not get a cut if you buy one of these bags!)
Personally, I would not be able to tell one bag from the other, but it was fun looking them up...
