I think there is a big difference between privacy and secrecy. There are things about my life that I don’t want splashed across the internet, because they are private, and I hold them close to me, but they are not secret – other people in my life know about them and it would not devastate anyone to find them out.
If I meet a couple who has chosen to have an open
relationship – they both know that Thursday night they go out separately and
have sex with others – then I have no problem with it. That is their private business. But I often
meet couples where one person is going out and having sex with others and flat
out lying about it to their partner – and that causes a lot of problems. That
is not privacy; that is secrecy – a piece of information that can be
devastating if it were to come out. It
has been my experience that secrecy is almost always harmful to
relationships. So by all means keep your
privacy, but beware of keeping secrets…
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