"When you lose your emotional attachment to them, you begin to realize how ordinary they are and that it was your love and energy that made them unique"
Apparently this is an internet quote. I'd not heard it in this precise way before, but I see so often that people fall in love with what they want to see, and when they finally disengage, they can see that it was just another human in front of them... not a demi god or a monster. We give them our power and they become powerful. When we detach, we take back our power and amazingly, they can become powerless for us.
And it reminds of a piece I put up a while ago. (Just did the search and I wrote it in 2013!) with a quote from Gone with the Wind. I called it Loving what we want to see
“I loved something I made up, something that’s just as dead as Melly is. I made a pretty suit of clothes and fell in love with it. And when Ashley came riding along, so handsome, so different, I put that suit on him and made him wear it whether it fitted him or not. And I wouldn’t see what he really was. I kept on loving the pretty clothes—and not him at all.” Scarlett in Gone with the Wind.
People come and tell me things like this all the time (though not always with Scarlett's hard won awareness)
It's so important to see the person as they truly are, and not put your own suit on them, or give them all your power.
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