One sweet regular client was quarreling with her 24 year old son, who had somehow not moved out of home. I said to her the line that I often say to my own son - I'm here to raise an adult, not to grow a child. So if you don't make it to adulthood something is wrong.
I don't want them to fight and her to throw him out, he couch surf for a few weeks or months and then return home, for the cycle to repeat (as has happened.) I want them to sit calmly and for her to say with love in her heart, I'm not throwing you out, but I'm worried that you continuing to live here and for us to become resentful of each other is a bad cycle, and with only love in my heart, I'm letting you loose, so you can find your feet in the world.
She said that they really need to have that discussion (she had drawn lots of swords around their situation, it was really affecting her emotionally) and hopefully with this reading she has a way to start it.
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