Happy Mother's Day

This can be a wonderful, celebratory day,  or it can be something far more complicated. 

One mother of adult children came to me to tell me how distressed she was because her adult children have planned nothing special for her this weekend.  Another adult woman told me she hated this day since her mother had passed six years ago and her remarried father wanted her to celebrate it with his new wife. 

Like Christmas,  like Thanksgiving,  complicated family dynamics can make for a complicated festival.  If you are not getting what you want from the day,  try to sort out for yourself what it is that you need,  what can you do that will make it better for you.  Perhaps coordinate a hotel brunch with your adult children, perhaps tell your father that are busy today but will see them next weekend.  Perhaps go out with your childfree friends,  perhaps acknowledge that your adult children are celebrating with their children and this is a more young child's festival.  

But absolutely do something that gives you joy today. 

Mother's Day

It's Mother's Day on Sunday, and a young man at the mall gave me a single rose to celebrate it. 

Part of me is cynical when it comes to commercialized holidays, thinking it a business sponsored deal to sell us cards and gifts.  But part of me also values the sentiment of acknowledging our often unappreciated mothers, who do so much of the heavy lifting in many families. 

I'm lucky with my mother and my mother in law,  both loving and present women.  I'm grateful to have a good relationship with both of them.  However I do lots of readings for women who don't have such great relationships with their mother figures and these days can be doubly difficult for them.

If you are one of the lucky ones - go ahead and celebrate, put up those pictures on the socials,  make some noise for the excellent women in your life.   If you are not, be kind to yourself,  do what works for you,  and don't let yourself be steamrollered into situations where you feel worse. 

Gift Certificates

Quite a few pleople have told me that they are giving a reading with me as a gift,  and a woman I had done a reading for recently asked if I could provide a gift certificate.  So I've just designed a (basic) gift certificate,  which you can purchase and give to friends and family.   Thanks to her for her inspiration and I'm pleased to be able to offer gift certificates if you have need...

Making a Splash

Just got a mention in Splash Magazine's weblog... you have to scroll about half way down, and there I am! (by the drop of water)  They are recommending me as a mother's day gift - for the woman who has everything.. a glimpse of the future might be the perfect present.