I remember talking about this when I was an addiction counsellor. If you are driving somewhere and miss your turnoff (or turn off too early) you don't go all the way home and start over again. You get to the next ramp and start from there. If you fall off your goal, you're not a zero, you are at 100 days minus one - you are at 99 days and then start counting.
It felt much kinder and also truer, to do that rather than rachet you back to zero.
And life is so much about the journey, rather than just reaching an arbitrary destination. So if it took you 370 days to get to a year's sobriety, then take those extra days, those wrong turns, and try not to do that again. But don't put yourself back at day 0. You are so much further ahead than that!
Wishing us all well, on all of our journeys...
