This can be a wonderful, celebratory day, or it can be something far more complicated.
One mother of adult children came to me to tell me how distressed she was because her adult children have planned nothing special for her this weekend. Another adult woman told me she hated this day since her mother had passed six years ago and her remarried father wanted her to celebrate it with his new wife.
Like Christmas, like Thanksgiving, complicated family dynamics can make for a complicated festival. If you are not getting what you want from the day, try to sort out for yourself what it is that you need, what can you do that will make it better for you. Perhaps coordinate a hotel brunch with your adult children, perhaps tell your father that are busy today but will see them next weekend. Perhaps go out with your childfree friends, perhaps acknowledge that your adult children are celebrating with their children and this is a more young child's festival.
But absolutely do something that gives you joy today.
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