Soulmates

I was reading an article about a new TV show called Soulmates and it reminded me of many conversations I've had.

People often come to tarot readings to ask about love.  But some people want more than that,  some people want Soul Mates.   I and warn them,  soulmates is not what you think it is,  soulmates teach you a soul life lesson.  It can be a great lesson in trust and affection and faith.  Or it can be a devastating or difficult lesson -  how we fool ourselves, how to see ourselves with true clarity.  

Soulmates connect on a soul level,  but if you are not in touch with your soul's desires,  or if you are actively going against your soul's desires,  then meeting a soulmate can be a difficult life lesson.

I read for so many bright,  attractive,  funny women who tell me there are few men out there (pre covid,  when it was easier to meet them)  And then one day I did a reading for a bright,  sensitive funny man who told me that there are no women out there. And I said,  no,  you're wrong,  I could introduce you to plenty (I have worked at a dating agency,  and once a matchmaker,  always a matchmaker)  But he said,  I'm a middle school teacher on a fixed income of $65,000,  and I knew that many of my bright funny women wanted a man who at least earnt six figures,  and maybe even high six figures,  and would not want to meet him.  

A man earning high six figures (or a woman with a model face and figure) is not a soul mate.  They are fantasy.  And that fantasy can be dangerous.  It can stop you from connecting with love because they don't look like what you expected,  or earn what you would like.  Sometimes your soulmate comes into your life to teach you that you are on the wrong path,  but in the learning of the lesson,  they leave...   

So ask for love,  ask for connection.  But don't ask for fantasies and don't ask for perfection,  because even if you get it,  it may be what you want,  but it won't be what you need...