Recently a client used a phrase I hadn't heard before and I just thought it was perfect. She was complaining about her husband and said he just has this 'want a cookie' energy. She caught my puzzled look and said, every time he does anything, just normal adult stuff, like unload the dishwasher or move clothes into the dryer, he acts like he should get a cookie/reward for it. (paraphrasing, but that's the gist of it) She's tired of him wanting praise and cookies for just doing basic stuff, while not giving the same back to her.
That was a really good observation and one hard that's hard to fight. It's hard when things feel unbalanced. Her 2 of cups was reversed and the 5 of swords was hovering. We had a serious talk and I recommended counselling. These feelings can so easily lead to contempt, and contempt is the marriage killer.
But I loved the phrase.
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