One of three things, Part 1

When people come to see me,  they usually want to talk about one of three things - Love,  Work or Am I on the Right Path.   They can talk about all three of course,  but one of these is usually the initiating factor.

Before heading to the holiday season,  I though I would talk about love for a minute.  (I'll talk about work and path in January,  whose new year of 2020 is a benediction for clearer insight)

Sometimes people come to me,  saying they want to meet their soul mate.  I usually respond be careful what you wish for.  A soul mate usually arrives to teach you a soul life lesson - something which will fundamentally shift your perspective and force you towards growth.  It's never simple.  

People want the lovers card,  all fireworks and glory.

But anyone who has been in a long term relationship can tell you that love,  life long love,  is a marathon, not a sprint.  There is no couple that has been together for a significant amount of time,  that hasn't had downs as well as ups in their time together.  

That's why I prefer the two of cups for relationships,  where you face each other and give equal amounts of energy,  drinking from each others cups,  and filling each other up.

The Lovers Card

I've been a tarot reader for many years, but I've had other jobs at the same time... I've worked at dating agency and have been a relationship counsellor. I gave a talk about Love and Tarot, and the point that got most people nodding was my one about the Lovers card. 

People come to me all the time and say they want the Lover's card in their reading. But I've been in New York a long time now and I say to them, are you ready for the Lover's card?  It has 2 people, naked, facing each other and an ornate angel hovering over them. Who wouldn't want the Lovers card?  But love is about choice and then commitment. Once you make one choice, there are no other options open to you.  If someone more interesting walks in the room, with a better job, better energy,  better options,  you've chosen the Lovers Card and you can't chose them.  And people that night, as on other nights, kind of flinch, and turn away. 

New York is a city obsessed with choice and options, hesitant to settle on any one idea lest a better one come around.  And that hurts them when it comes to Love, because love is a closing of other options, to deepen and enhance the one you have.  One of my favorite Lovers Cards shows a bride and groom, their backs to us and the audience, forsaking all others.  And when you are ready to do that, ready to commit and make a final choice, that's when the lover's card will appear in your tarot spread.