A women in her 50's came to me. She had divorced about five years ago and then last year an old boyfriend from high school reached out to her, via facebook. It was absolutely magical for about 4 months, but then he said it couldn't go forward and more or less ghosted her. She was devastated and came to me to get some clarity.
We talked about love bombing, and the seduction but also the unreality of it. We talked about how he had set up standards that were so high, he could never continue meet them, and so then ran away. And no one person can be everything, it's too big an ask. We need to diversify and get our needs met from a variety of people, not just The One.
I gave her one of my favorite Ester Perel talks, it's about the first 20 minutes of the video.
She loved it so much, she asked me to share it more broadly, so I told her I would share it on my blog. If you can't get to see me, you can still hear this... (also, there are loads more Ester Perel talks about there, so you can find plenty more.) And if you want to talk one on one about your situation, send me an email and we'll set up a reading.
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