April Fools

I actually hate pranks,  there's always an underlying cruelty to them.  I hate surprise parties - all day long you're sad that no one has remembered your birthday,  and then surprise,  everyone is there,  so you have to take all those disappointed feelings and throw them away and be cheerful and grateful.  I also hate performative gratitude.  I don't want to be forced to be grateful or thankful or humble.

Which goes to say,  no April Fools here today,  and no surprise parties either. But I do like giving and getting gifts for no reason, other than I saw it and thought of you...  Now those I like a lot! 

What are you watching?

In times of stress, my go to is TV crime dramas.  Even the most horrendous crimes,  that take 8 hours of viewing to complete,  has a solution at the end.  It's so satisfying that cleverness wins,  justice triumphs and the bad people are discovered and shamed.  

It's no wonder, the state of the world being what it is,  that I am bingeing on them right now.   And worse,  now I've signed up to BritBox,  I can see all the excellent British crime series and the choices are endless! Last one I watched was Karen Pirie,  very satisfying. 

At least I have my comfort TV, with its certainty and its cups of tea... 

Dating

If you go to the B symbol on the upper left hand side of this blog and write in Dating in the search box,  you'll get over 10 hits - posts I have written over the years about dating. 

Dating is one of the most common issues I get asked about.  People want to know if it is worth investing more time and effort into this newish relationship,  people wanting to know if their love partner is going to offer more,  people wanting to move to marriage, to move on,  to move out. 

And dating is a really good issue to bring to a tarot card reader,  the cards are usually crisp and clear.  I like this one - All about Love,  which includes my favorite Jam experiment and this one from 2014,  about OK Cupid. 

Also,  if you are interested in any particular tarot card,  go the search button,  type in the card name,  and get lots of information! 

So if you have any questions,  read the many posts I've already written,  and then text or email me and we'll set up a reading. 

Severance

The TV show Severance,  from Apple TV,  has a high concept - that they could somehow split people so what they do at work and what they do out of work do not connect.  It's fascinating and the first season was lighter in my eyes,  this season was more bleak.

But the NYT had a great article about it and how people can appear split right now - and in the comments someone from Seattle wrote I've come to the conclusion that we now have people divided into their normal self and their enraged social media self. The normal self, in most cases, shows restraint and courtesy and keeps opinions to itself. The social media self never questions "Should I say this?" they just blurt out vile vitriol.

And that was perfect for me! I do think we often have a split personality when it comes to social media and people I know and like have said some awful things, while strangers have said really vile things. And it is like there is some inside and outside split. I hadn't thought of it in the context of the tv show, but there really is a severance between how people act in the real world and how they act online. (Though how they act online is bleeding out into the real world right now, which is not a good thing at all!)

We have to work to stop the vile rhetoric online,  but also to present ourselves cogently,  so we are the same person at work, online  and at home.  Perhaps more relaxed in one environment,  but not fundamentally different. And to remember in each environment,  that we are communicating with other human beings,  as complicated as ourselves... 

Take notes 2

So one of my clients contacted me after my last blog piece and thought she was going to read something about taking notes during a reading.   I said that it's actually quite hard to take notes,  because there is so much information and you are asking questions,  and getting answers.  I've seen people try,  but I feel it's much better to record.

I encourage people to record their readings.  I tell people,  if you don't want it,  you can just delete it, but if you do want it and don't have it, then I can't always recall the exact words I used.  So often people return in 6 months or so and I can hear my phrases in their words and they tell me that they've listened to the recording multiple times.  One young graduate told me she was so upset with the reading, that it was only on relistening she could hear what I was actually saying and she found it very helpful and then returned fairly often over the years. 

I now do all my readings online,  so you can easily record it.   When talking about emotional topics,  it's nice to be able to mull it over in your own time,  to help sort out how it really feels for you. 

Take notes!

So last night I was reading in bed and came across something and thought,  that would make a great blog piece.  Then I went to sleep. 

This morning I remembered that I had read something... can I remember what it was?  Can I remember how to find it again?  Did I bookmark anything?  Of course not! 

Moral of the story,  when you think of something,  take notes! Even a quick voice memo on your phone. Anything.  Our brains are so overloaded all the time, it's hard to trust that you will remember it.

I know if it's super important it will come back to me,  but why make the universe work so hard?  Instead,  take notes,  make your life easier. 

My Current Favorite Deck

Okay I admit it - I have way too many tarot decks!  It's one of the real joys of the internet,  the huge range of cards and images that are available.

When I started reading (really,  before the internet was anything!) you could basically access what was available at your local book/ esoterica shop and that was it.  Then you could start to order things online. But now, there are thousands and thousands of Decks.  There is no way anyone could know them all. 

But I often trawl for tarot images,  that can bring a new perspective to a card.  And I've come across The Cosmic Cycles Tarot by Miriam EG (Illustrator)

The illustrations are excellent and she really brings some new ideas and depths to her tarot interpretations.

I'm trying to be strong and not buy yet another deck,  but who knows...

All pictures are from the Cosmic Cycles tarot deck